Why We Worry: An Introduction to Meeting Your Innate Needs
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Have you ever wondered why some people seem to handle stress so much better than others? It often comes down to how well their innate emotional needs are being met. We all have these needs, such as the need for security, the need for attention, and the need for a sense of status or competence. When these needs are met in balance, we feel mentally healthy and resilient. When they are not, anxiety is often the brain’s way of signalling that something is wrong.
Think of it like a physical need. If you don't eat, you get hungry. If you don't drink, you get thirsty. If you don't meet your emotional needs, you get anxious or depressed. Worrying is often a misguided attempt by the brain to solve the problem of an unmet need. For example, if you don't feel secure in your job, your brain might start worrying as a way to prepare for the worst-case scenario. It thinks it is helping, but it is actually just filling up your emotional bucket.
In our sessions, we look at your life like a garden. If the plants are wilting, we don't just tell them to stop wilting. We look at whether they have enough water, sunlight, and nutrients. We check if the environment is right for them to grow. Anxiety is often just the wilting signal. Once we identify which of your needs are not being met, the anxiety often begins to subside because the brain no longer needs to send the alarm signal.
A good way to start today is to look at your need for community or connection. Sometimes anxiety makes us want to hide away, but that actually starves our need for connection, making the anxiety worse. Could you send one text to a friend today? Or perhaps just have a three-minute chat with a neighbour? Small steps toward meeting a need can have a surprisingly large impact on how much background noise anxiety produces in your mind. We will work together to look at all your needs and find gentle, sustainable ways to get them met again.
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Have you ever wondered why some people seem to handle stress so much better than others? It often comes down to how well their innate emotional needs are being met. We all have these needs, such as the need for security, the need for attention, and the need for a sense of status or competence. When these needs are met in balance, we feel mentally healthy and resilient. When they are not, anxiety is often the brain’s way of signalling that something is wrong.
Think of it like a physical need. If you don't eat, you get hungry. If you don't drink, you get thirsty. If you don't meet your emotional needs, you get anxious or depressed. Worrying is often a misguided attempt by the brain to solve the problem of an unmet need. For example, if you don't feel secure in your job, your brain might start worrying as a way to prepare for the worst-case scenario. It thinks it is helping, but it is actually just filling up your emotional bucket.
In our sessions, we look at your life like a garden. If the plants are wilting, we don't just tell them to stop wilting. We look at whether they have enough water, sunlight, and nutrients. We check if the environment is right for them to grow. Anxiety is often just the wilting signal. Once we identify which of your needs are not being met, the anxiety often begins to subside because the brain no longer needs to send the alarm signal.
A good way to start today is to look at your need for community or connection. Sometimes anxiety makes us want to hide away, but that actually starves our need for connection, making the anxiety worse. Could you send one text to a friend today? Or perhaps just have a three-minute chat with a neighbour? Small steps toward meeting a need can have a surprisingly large impact on how much background noise anxiety produces in your mind. We will work together to look at all your needs and find gentle, sustainable ways to get them met again.
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Have you ever wondered why some people seem to handle stress so much better than others? It often comes down to how well their innate emotional needs are being met. We all have these needs, such as the need for security, the need for attention, and the need for a sense of status or competence. When these needs are met in balance, we feel mentally healthy and resilient. When they are not, anxiety is often the brain’s way of signalling that something is wrong.
Think of it like a physical need. If you don't eat, you get hungry. If you don't drink, you get thirsty. If you don't meet your emotional needs, you get anxious or depressed. Worrying is often a misguided attempt by the brain to solve the problem of an unmet need. For example, if you don't feel secure in your job, your brain might start worrying as a way to prepare for the worst-case scenario. It thinks it is helping, but it is actually just filling up your emotional bucket.
In our sessions, we look at your life like a garden. If the plants are wilting, we don't just tell them to stop wilting. We look at whether they have enough water, sunlight, and nutrients. We check if the environment is right for them to grow. Anxiety is often just the wilting signal. Once we identify which of your needs are not being met, the anxiety often begins to subside because the brain no longer needs to send the alarm signal.
A good way to start today is to look at your need for community or connection. Sometimes anxiety makes us want to hide away, but that actually starves our need for connection, making the anxiety worse. Could you send one text to a friend today? Or perhaps just have a three-minute chat with a neighbour? Small steps toward meeting a need can have a surprisingly large impact on how much background noise anxiety produces in your mind. We will work together to look at all your needs and find gentle, sustainable ways to get them met again.